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The Purpose Driven® Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? (Purpose Driven® Life, The)
By Rick Warren
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I have a theory on relationships, specifically marriage relationships. I have two theories, actually, but I'm not completely sure I'll get both covered in this post so I'm only promising one. Better to set your expectations low and be pleasantly surprised than to set them high and have them dashed, right?
So this is the theory. There are two types of people in relationships, two ways of looking at the relationship. For some of us the relationship is like a walk or a hike (or an arduous walk?) through the forest. Sure, there's an endpoint in mind, but it's the journey that makes it worth the while. Sometimes you get off the path a little bit, but you find your way back and you realize you discovered something amazing during your little side trip. It's all about the experience, the time spent together. And should you happen to make it to the destination, you turn around together and head back the way you came, or maybe not so much, eager to do it all again soon.
For others, relationships are like a trip to the moon. Any little deviation from the flight plan spells eminent danger for the entire mission, and the whole thing is fraught with peril. (Maybe it's just that I liked typing in the phrase "fraught with peril.") The endpoint is the goal, and once you get there, the only thing to do is plant your little flag and come back. You've made it, but now what?
So guess which way I look at relationships, and which way Smiddy sees them. Oh, but it's lovely.
And since I do have time, here's my other analogy: Life is a road. It's not usually a well-maintained road; instead it has pits and funny little bumps and big cracks. If you've got a good set of shocks, then you can sort of coast over the smallest of these bumps without really feeling anything; however, lose the shocks, and everything feels like imminent disaster. So the question is, how does one go about getting themselves a set of shocks for the road of life? Is it possible?
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Comments (8)
Hmmm...you didn't recently have a weird and totally avoidable fight about the A/C in someone's car, did you??? I imagine you favor the "hike" view of relationships, as do I. Thankfully that is a way in which my SO and I agree. We deviate all over the map, from the flight plan. Sometimes it is fun, but sometimes it is fraught with danger!
Great analogies.....sounds like they may have come from a few experiences??? (grin)
Jesus is my shock absorber for the road of life!! :)
good analogies! :)
The more road you get under you, the less likely you are to feel the little bumps, generally. I'd say you get shocks by keeping on trucking down the road, and doing it with a companion. Isn't that the recommendation in the Bible, that two going down that road are better than one, because if a big bump gets you, your partner can help you up?
Your trip analogy can apply to a real trip too. I can already tell Smiddy is the trip to the moon kind of guy. I think its a man thing. I can't tell you how many times I've looked longingly at antique stores or rustic drive ins through the window of our moving vehicle while Mr M. is "killing road snakes."
hm.. what would be the destination of a marriage?
@TheBigShowAtUD - maybe that point where you're both 80, and you look at each other and realize, "This is the best thing I could have done." I'm not sure. The whole "till death do you part" thing?
The problem is that I am in a compartment talking about one specific issue. My guest in my compartment wants to talk about 3 other issues. It doesn't work, I am talking about this issue and this issue only. If we are going to talk about the three other things we have to get up, walk out, shut the door, go to another SINGLE ISSUE compartment, open the door, step in, pick the issue up, discuss the issue, put it down, go out the compartment, shut the door and move to the next compartment so on and so on.
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@Thegracewalk - It's hard not to issue hop. We also find that it's hard not to fight old fights in current fights. We're getting better at it.
Have you heard the analogy about men being like waffles and women like spaghetti? With men, everything is contained in its own little box; with women, everything is all intertwined and mixed up with each other. Sound like your life?